Sober Striver to
Empowerment &
Possibility
Lisa, early 2005
I grew up around alcohol and by the naughties I was drinking to have fun, socialise and relax, and while everything appeared great on the outside, it wasn't on the inside. I was caught in a cycle of working hard and then drinking, undoing all the hard work I'd put into my career, relationships, and fitness. Despite going weeks without drinking at times, I'd soon slide back into my old habits.
If I Wanted My Future To Change, I Had To Change
But I couldn't get the support I needed. People would say,
'You don't have a drink problem, why would you stop drinking?', 'Just have one!' or 'You work hard, you deserve it!'
My alcohol-free curiosity was seen as self-punishment, but I knew a break from drinking meant more opportunities. When asked to be a practice client for a friend's life coaching course, I jumped at the chance and began experimenting with alcohol-free living.
THE BREAK THAT
CHANGED MY LIFE
Everything Changed When I Took a Longer Break From Drinking
Everything changed when I took a longer break from drinking. I fell in love with personal development, trained as an NLP practitioner with Dr. Richard Bandler, and quickly started coaching others. I redirected the time, money, and energy from my drinking lifestyle into other areas of my life. During a talk I gave on alcohol-free living, a woman said,
'Alcohol's like paint stripper; it slowly takes from you, leaving you with less than you thought you'd have.'
Her words hit home, making me realise that the consequences of my drinking lifestyle had worsened over the years. I knew if I spent the next decade doing the same as I had the previous decade, I wouldn't be able to create the life and future I truly wanted.
My mission is to show as many women as possible how amazing being alcohol-free can be.
I've trained in various modalities (NLP, EFT, Somatics) to facilitate smoother transitions to alcohol-free living and personal transformation for my clients. I've deepened my understanding through further academic study in personal development, neuroscience, and the nervous system, completing my master's level at university.
Being Alcohol-free Wasn't an Inconvenience - It Was A GIFT
Especially the simple things like being in the moment during story time with my son, walks in nature with my whippet or a spa days with friends. Being alcohol-free means having more of everything else. And when spending quality time with loved ones, whether it's water skiing, dining out, or running a marathon, I'm fully present, enjoying every moment without thinking about whether to drink or not. I feel liberated, saving time and energy by not drinking or being hungover.
Alcohol Controlled My Emotions, My Moods & My Energy Levels
Alcohol negatively impacted my relationships, life, and work. Today, knowing how to control and change my emotional state has been a positive game-changer in my life.
I say to women who are thinking of taking a break from their drinking lifestyle, that I wish I could transport them into the future to experience how they would feel with distance from alcohol. While I don't have a magic time machine, I do know how to help you implement game-changing tools and techniques that will empower you and let you see what's possible for you.
These days...
I live in the UK with my fiancé, our little boy, and our whippet.
I love spending quality time with family and friends, traveling, walking in nature, and exploring new restaurants, English tea rooms, and coffee shops.
I enjoy reading about neuroscience, positive psychology, human behaviour, and human potential.
I like (but limit) scrolling time for Rightmove .
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NOTE: Lisa Sebastian's work is not for individuals who are dependent on alcohol.
If you think you are alcohol dependent, please contact your doctor.
LISA'S CREDENTIALS
Experience & Street Cred
• Alcohol-Free since the noughties.
• Mentored and coached hundreds of women exclusively (Executive, addiction, grey area drinking coaching, and 'Ambition Meets Drinking Lifestyle' coaching.)
• Sabbatical in 2009 for coaching through voluntary work: speaker and 1:1 coach, workshop facilitator in various settings.
• 15 years corporate experience, navigating a male dominated industry.
• Positions held: Engineer, Business Improvements, Project Manager, Change Agent, Corporate Coach, Speaker, Facilitator, Workshop Creator, Secretary of the BT Women's Network.
• 2020 - now : Became a first time mum during COVID-19 lockdown, while coaching studying, managing property projects.
Education & Certs
• University Of Chester: Post Graduate: Transformational Coaching (Addiction and Grey-area-drinking), University Of Cambridge: Executive Coaching & ACTP Gold Standard Coaching ICF Accredited, Barefoot Coach Training: Personal & Business.
• Neuro Linguistic Practitioner (NLP) trained by Dr. Richard Bandler, The Society of NLP Accredited
• BA (Honours) Humanities: Effective Performance at Work, Business Studies, Writing and Communication
• Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) Practitioner (EFT International Accredited Course)
• Neurosomatics, Meditation & Reiki Master Practitioner
• Excellent Performance certification from BT for my role as a desk based network engineer on high profile projects; Olympic Games, National Broadband Launches & Royal Events.
• Corporate Certifications (that can be useful in my work today): Lean Operational Change Agent & Prince 2 Project Manager.
Additional Techniques
• Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT / Tapping)
• Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP), Mental Rehearsal
• Nervous System Regulation, & Personal Energy Management
And more.
NOTE:The techniques I use are grounded in evidence from psychology or neuroscience.
Overcoming challenges such as a difficult childhood, grey area drinking, the impact of others' addictions, burnout, and becoming a first time mum in my 40s during the COVID19 lockdown has equipped me to help my clients effectively.
WHAT CLIENTS SAY
"Lisa has beautiful and unique way of bringing out our best qualities and sparking a catalyst within.
Lisa renewed my self-belief and helped me to realise that we can indeed transform."
CAROLINE BINNS
"Working with Lisa has helped me realise why I've been stuck.
I found it difficult to say no to people, I finally ended a relationship that wasn't working and I now feel inspired."
SARAH ENGINEER, UK
"As a therapist for medical professionals in the NHS, working with Lisa has
helped me to understand, on a deeper level, some of the challenges my clients face."
SARAH EVANS, NHS, UK
"If you are looking to grow, intellectually, emotionally or professionally, I can guarantee, Lisa will help you make positive changes to your life."
DIANE DAY, AUSTRALIA
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