My Story
80s I grew up around alcohol.
00 And I started to put too many expectations on alcohol - to have fun, sleep, socialise, relax, impress & more.
02 When I got promoted everything appeared great on the outside, good friends, boozy nights out and holidays, material things - but I didn't feel good on the inside.
04 I began exploring personal development, meditation, yoga and energy management, and started to take short breaks from alcohol - but I'd undo all my efforts with my drinking lifestyle.
05 Hit burnout in my corporate technical role, got my first coach and took my first long break from alcohol.
08 Took a 12 month sabbatical and started to coach women voluntarily around the effects of their relationship with alcohol, and became a speaker in schools, colleges, rehabs and prisons.
09 Qualified as a Neuro Linguistic Practitioner, with the co-founder of NLP, Dr. Richard Bandler and became fascinated with human potential, personal transformation and what holds individuals back.
11 Started to coach professionally both inside and outside of my corporate role.
12 Won Excellent Performance awards at BT Group, started studying for my degree, ran my first marathon and hit burnout for the second time.
17 Graduated in Humanities Degree 2:1 (performance at work, communication, and more).
19 - present Completed further professional and academic training, specialising in the effects of alcohol on ambitious individuals.
Specialised in female focused work, showing ambitious women how to break The Sober Striver Loop, and shift to a paradigm of empowerment and possibility.
Created The READY system, a female focused system designed for Sober Strivers who are stuck in The Sober Striver Loop and their ambition has met their drinking lifestyle.
How Alcohol Held Me Back
· Unable to master my emotions (studies show self-control is crucial to success).
· Couldn't achieve and maintain a consistent higher level of focus, mental fitness and resilience.
· Didn't know how to elicit the mindset I needed to create the life or do the work I wanted.
· Because my life and career looked good from the outside, I procrastinated in changing it.
· I was fed up, tired, woke too early, hungover, frustrated, stressed or overwhelmed - too often.
· I had too much self doubt and put others first at my own expense.
· As I navigated alcohol free living, I didn't have the tools needed to handle certain people, places or situations.
· I kept sliding back into the drinking lifestyle, because it felt like the easiest thing to do.
· When I was alcohol free, I still I found it hard to sleep, socialise, be confident, calm or relaxed and struggled to focus.
And then...
When I changed my thoughts and my actions, the trajectory of my life shifted, more than I imagined.
It took me a lot longer to achieve mental fitness and master my emotions, than it needs to take you.
When I became intentional about my life, achieved the right mindset and gained more self control, I created the life you've been looking for.
I have experienced personal and cultural challenges around alcohol - which I overcame, and today I have no desire to drink, and haven't drank since 2005 - this helps me to understand my clients on a deeper level needed for lasting change.
Some people I'm close to drink and it's inconsequential to me - alcohol-free living has been liberating not limiting.
I enjoy my life, my relationships and my work, so much more now I'm living and alcohol free lifestyle.
And I do a lot more too.
A Bit More
I live in the UK with my fiancé, our little boy and our whippet.
I'm curious and read about personal development, psychology & neuroscience.
I'm glad I ran a marathon :), and enjoy travel, scuba diving, water skiing, pilates, long walks, tea rooms & coffee shops.
I love getting comfy at home with the family, and quality time with friends.
I like (but limit) scrolling time for fashion, property & interior design.
OVER TO YOU...
My clients get results because I've been where they've been, my coaching is female focused and I'm honest with them. Honest in ways their family, friends, clients or work colleagues aren't or can't be.
I help them realise how their negative thinking impacts their emotions, actions, and how they see themselves and others, and how this negatively effects their life and work.
I challenge their unhelpful thoughts and show them how to think differently and feel better. I show them how to keep momentum when life gets tough, when they feel like going back to unhelpful habits.
Together we break through their internal blocks that keep them stuck or prevent them from moving forward. Together we turn their uncertainty into a 'can do' attitude that leads to positive change.
They know how set the foundations to thrive and enter a new paradigm of empowerment and possibility.
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